as a college-age female, there seems to be so much pressure to show the boys that girls can do anything. we are "supposed to" get a degree, or several degrees, and find a career. we are "supposed to" work as hard as we can in that career so we can advance and make lots of money, enough money to support ourselves. we "should not" need to depend on a man for anything.
well, actually, the Savior of the world came as a man. and I depend on Him for my life.
and yes, I do want to have a job when I graduate from college. however, I'm not looking to support myself for the rest of my life. I'm not looking for a career. I'm not wanting to be completely independent. I truly aspire to be a wife and mother. not the weak, submissive wife people seem to think Paul describes, but a strong woman who can have intelligent conversations about all kinds of things: spiritual, academic, parental, spousal, political, everything.
I love making people happy. I like to cook and bake and do laundry and wash dishes.
my room is never clean, but I love cleaning. I like organizing.
I want to do those things for my husband and my children.
I'm not saying that it's wrong for a woman to have a career. that's a great thing for a woman to do.
I think it's great for a woman to be able to support herself. Paul was a huge supporter of singleness. if you are certain that that's God's plan for your life, go for it.
but I won't listen to you if you tell me that what I want to do is wrong. I'm not saying that I have it all figured out. I believe (and was told during a time of prayer) that this semester with be a time of figuring things out and learning about myself and learning about God and what He has planned for me.
I'm not in that group of people that thinks that your life begins when you go to college, or when you graduate from college, or when you move into your own apartment/house/trailer.
my life began over 18 years ago. it's been a journey that will last until the day I die.
and, I hope, my legacy will last after my death. I hope that I can leave a lasting, positive mark on the lives of those around me.
and, that's my idea of what I want for my life.
it's a lot different from what I wanted when I came to school in August.
and it might change by the end of April.
but it's good for right now, and I don't think that it's in contradiction at all with Scripture.
if I'm wrong, let me know.
that's the social part of social media.
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"I believe (and was told during a time of prayer) that this semester with be a time of figuring things out and learning about myself and learning about God and what He has planned for me."
I think it is great you are taking some time to figure out things. College is a bit daunting, trying to figure out what you are going to "be"...this coming from a girl that took 6 and half years to figure things out. Just remember you have many talents with cooking, theater and music as well as other academic areas...don't close the door on either of those things. All could quite possibly fit very well into a life with family to take care of!
It's funny, I think the last thing I wanted to be when I was in college was a mother...so it's sort of ironic that God gave me with two (amazing) children. Of course that means He gives me the grace and wisdom to raise them too.
You have excellent examples of Christian women (wives and mothers) in your mom and grandmothers...which is an amazing gift.
I'm so thankful that God knows what He's doing with your life, and thankful that you're willing to let Him do what wants...that's like 90% of it, you know... I continue to pray that you will be blessed for your obedience to Him and for the joy your bring to those around you.
What would you think, honestly, of a guy--one of your fellow BC students, say--said "I don't know that I necessarily aspire to a career or to support myself. I want to be a husband and a father."?
I'd love to see you write a blog about that guy--the guy who's great passion and calling in life is to be a father and a husband--not the boring house-husband type, but the educated, capable of intelligent conversation about all variety of subjects type. ;-)
Well, if that's the guy's calling from God, I'm all for it. :-)
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